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I may seem like a giant flake, but I don't do friendbacks unless I feel like I'm connecting like hell with a person and my mind kinda spazzes and goes "where have you been all my life?"

It's partly because I have been burned in the past wherein I'd friend people back and then since we never really talked in the first place, while I got into reading them, they disappeared, stopped commenting and it felt like an unrequited relationship. My f-list is actually pretty private now as a result. People are free to lurk, but friending me doesn't mean that I'll get around to friending back any time soon.

And you don't have to friend me - you can track posts, or do RSS feeds. If you feel hurt by my stance, you do have alternative options to friending.

I also think friending everyone whose been on the flist a while and filtering them out when I read the flist is a bigger insult than not friending them back. I want to be able to say that I read my flist and try to connect with the people. I connect mainly through fandom posts. I'm not going to friend/keep someone on if I'm not willing to give them at least that much attention.

I'm also someone who is normally a GIANT lurker. Participation in fandom things doesn't actually come normally. Three times in the past, I've tried to do a couple of big, awesome things - but in the end I flaked out, avoided commitments and then discovered it was too late. And yeah, I think of those things and I feel like the biggest asshat ever.

LJ is all about fandom for me - its something that I've needed but never had - ever since I was in middle school really. It's an outlet and even a bit of escapism from RL to just enjoy and share the love. I try to ignore wank apart from watching it while eating popcorn, 'cause that's not why I'm here. Truthfully, if LJ does become more drama than its worth, I know I'll probably log off one day and never come back. That's just me.

For now though, LJ is still a pretty awesome place :)
I'll pretty much friend anyone back if they have similar interests and we've exchanged a few comments - which makes it likely we'll get on, and I'll find their LJ interesting enough to comment on every now and then - but I find it pretty bizarre when people with bare LJs, who I've never had any interaction with, just friend me out of the blue. They don't get friended back, heh. That's just wierd.

Popcorn! Salt or sweet? :)
That happens to me a lot and I ignore them too. I've been getting a lot of those in the last few months and I find them really freaky. Just had one today in fact. *sighs* I really hate that.

I realised it a month ago but since Dec, there have been 80+ friendings and even if most of them are active journals, I'd never be able to get to know all these people without feeling like I'm drowning under posts. As soon as the flist gets too large I stop commenting and I don't want that to happen again.