anime - amatsuki - smile - summer

Edit: norton_gale said it best, "My flist is a reading list, not a list of friends, though many of you do fit that description. So, if you ever want to stop reading my LJ, just go ahead and defriend. I may or may not keep you friended: it depends on your journal."

Yeah, that's my policy in a nutshell. For more detail, read bellow.

Why I may de-friend on LJ

[1] De-friending does not mean I hate/dislike you. 99% of the time it means I'm not reading your LJ. This may be because the majority of your lj's content consists of:
  • birthday wishes
  • memes
  • RL (for me LJ = primarily fandom)
  • fic posting or icon posting
  • a fandom I don't/no longer follow

Those are also the reasons I may spend a lot of time lurking on your lj - don't have much to contribute to the above esp if I didn't friend your lj initially for fic/icons.

It may also be 'cause we haven't been connecting much:
[2] We haven't commented on each other's ljs in a while (weeks/months)
[3] I have been skimming your posts

Whether I friend/defriend/do not friend your lj, you are always free to friend/defriend.

In many cases I may not have peeps listed as 'friends' but I still consider them to be seriously awesome.

How I use the 'friending' function on LJ
  • My flist is a reading list. I try not to keep anyone on it whose posts I end up skimming/skipping (and we don't connect via comments)
  • I will not keep you friended and filter you out because that just seems worse to me than defriending.
  • If we don't trade comments for weeks/months together, I will assume that we're skimming/skipping each others posts, are no longer connecting and may defriend.
  • If the majority of of our lj communication is spent with me commenting on your lj, I will assume you aren't all that interested in what I post and me keeping you on 'friend' status will depend on how interested I am in your lj posts.
  • If we (re)connect and I find myself reading your lj (again) in future, I will (re)friend you.


Everyone has their own way of doing things and this is mine.

Edit: On re-reading...*headdesk* Definitely suck at putting things into words :(
I feel kind of sad to be de-friended because your journal is one of the best for obscure and original fic links plus just lots of links that make me smile... I love the graphic downloads and such and I know that you lock those after a while...

I totally understand, though. I'm really active in the "reading fic" part of fandom but hardly ever post or talk about my fandoms... and I think the only one we share anymore is Harry Potter... plus school has been so busy that I'm lucky to get time to myself at all...

I'll try to fill out your poll on friending stuff soon. :)