anime - amatsuki - smile - summer

Edit: norton_gale said it best, "My flist is a reading list, not a list of friends, though many of you do fit that description. So, if you ever want to stop reading my LJ, just go ahead and defriend. I may or may not keep you friended: it depends on your journal."

Yeah, that's my policy in a nutshell. For more detail, read bellow.

Why I may de-friend on LJ

[1] De-friending does not mean I hate/dislike you. 99% of the time it means I'm not reading your LJ. This may be because the majority of your lj's content consists of:
  • birthday wishes
  • memes
  • RL (for me LJ = primarily fandom)
  • fic posting or icon posting
  • a fandom I don't/no longer follow

Those are also the reasons I may spend a lot of time lurking on your lj - don't have much to contribute to the above esp if I didn't friend your lj initially for fic/icons.

It may also be 'cause we haven't been connecting much:
[2] We haven't commented on each other's ljs in a while (weeks/months)
[3] I have been skimming your posts

Whether I friend/defriend/do not friend your lj, you are always free to friend/defriend.

In many cases I may not have peeps listed as 'friends' but I still consider them to be seriously awesome.

How I use the 'friending' function on LJ
  • My flist is a reading list. I try not to keep anyone on it whose posts I end up skimming/skipping (and we don't connect via comments)
  • I will not keep you friended and filter you out because that just seems worse to me than defriending.
  • If we don't trade comments for weeks/months together, I will assume that we're skimming/skipping each others posts, are no longer connecting and may defriend.
  • If the majority of of our lj communication is spent with me commenting on your lj, I will assume you aren't all that interested in what I post and me keeping you on 'friend' status will depend on how interested I am in your lj posts.
  • If we (re)connect and I find myself reading your lj (again) in future, I will (re)friend you.


Everyone has their own way of doing things and this is mine.

Edit: On re-reading...*headdesk* Definitely suck at putting things into words :(
Sounds sensible to me. I just recently defriended a bunch of people for those very reasons. Of course, people have defriended me for the same reasons and only because I don't post that much on LJ anymore. Ever since the whole LJ/SixApart fiasco over the summer, I've pulled up stakes and set up a home on Insanejournal. I keep my LJ active to keep up with those friends who don't have/don't want to have another blog, and some communities I still enjoy being a member of. I could probably RSS everything but there's no fun in that.